Connection is the key to conception of self. Through connection to ourselves and others we are able to truly understand our spirit and our interests. Connection is the not only the thing that binds us to ourselves, it binds us to our good vibe tribe or our running buddies. Our running buddies or our good vibe tribe are the people that run alongside us to cheer us on, support us, make us laugh, shine a light on us when we get stuck in a dark place, and most importantly they will bring out some of the best parts of us. The running buddy is someone who will ask if you are ok. Not only will they ask if you are ok, but the will take a chance to lend you a hand to get you back on two feet. The running buddy will not fix your problems, but they will help you to water when you well is dried up at the moment. Your good vibe tribe will not complain or condemn, but instead they will inspire and uplift. A good vibe tribe will love you unconditionally, even when your face won't shine rather than push you down further for their own selfish needs.
A good vibe tribe is the group of people that will be the ones we can feel at home with and be our honest true self with. Our support does always not need to come from our family or a loved one. Sometimes our family will not give off good vibes. Families are often the sources of criticism and lack of support. A runny buddy is someone that supports you, your life, and the things you are passionate about. Find a running buddy as a member of you church, your yoga instructor, a coach, a person you meet at an event of your interest, or through a creative class or group.
Runny buddies are often all around, if you open yourself up to having real honest conversations with people around you. Connection starts with communication and shared interests. Happiness and the ability to grow as our best self begins with connection to our true self. We also need to understand the importance of having a person or a group of people whose spirits align with ours. Our good vibe tribe will consist of those whose spirits align with ours and share at least one interest in which we can relate on. And many times we mistake, co-workers, drinking buddies, and childhood friends as our runny buddy when they are just surface level connections met through a shared environment. We all have our tribe, so don't settle for less. Take the time to find your tribe, and understand that good things come within time but are well worth the wait.
Much of the present world is based upon instant gratification and impulsive decisions. We want all things right now and not a minute later. A lot of our decision making is based off of the needs in our immediate future rather than a few years out. Often the needs that are being obsessed over are materialistic in nature. The needs of our society have turned from the American dream to the American obsession. People are obsessed with acquiring more things, more prestige, more followers, more money, more success, etc. Some would call this drive, while others would call this the pleasure principle. So much of people's decisions are currently based on the pleasure principle(short term goals), while mistakenly thinking this is what should be the driving force of their decisions. The pleasure principle is the need to have things that bring instant pleasure without an uncomfortable pause. The uncomfortable pause is the moment in which many of us have experiences that are less than ideal(examples:a crappy car, a small apt, less social life, less than ideal clothing), in order to delay gratification for a much larger cause. The delayed gratification period can also be know as a perseverance or willpower period in which we put all of our hard works towards a much larger cause (the long term goal).
Ways to Delay Gratification to Reach for the Long Term Goals
1)Delay gratification of materialistic goals- take focus on deeper more meaningful goals such as living out your life purpose, finding the one, starting your dream business, or finding a way to serve others using your natural abilities to make a difference.
2)Detach from the outcome-take enjoyment in finding your way, and discovering a new way of being . (Remember what it was like being a child wanting to discover new things) Let go of control of outcome, and just let life flow without knowing all the steps. Take each step as it comes, and keep going at all times regardless of falling down or being rejected.
3)Master the pause when tempted with impulse- when tempted to eat that piece of cake, spend money, or settle for a job that is not ideal, take a moment to pause then refocus your energy. When being tempted, we have the ability to stop and refocus our energy on a better decision. Stop, relax, and reset. What is a better solution than choosing this impulse? Always live to be better each day, and make the best possible decisions. And before we are tempted with an impulse, realize what your impulses are and how they are trigger, so that you may be prepared.
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Discovering yourself is the same as piecing a puzzle together. Because of this, many people never reach the core of who they are. A puzzle takes both time and patience, along with failing to find the right missing pieces. When building a puzzle, you must commit to time and endless searching until the pieces fit just right. A puzzle is created with a specific design on how the pieces are meant to fit together, as the same for our discovering our true being. Our true self is both complex and detailed, with many unique pieces that only fit us. No puzzle is identical to another puzzle, as goes the same for people.
So where do we began to piece our puzzle together? We begin by starting with an outline, as you would a puzzle. You take the basic pieces of what you want the puzzle to look like and begin building the framework. Once you have the framework, you start to flip the other puzzle pieces over and try to place them in your framework. Sometimes the piece fits and other times it may need to be moved to the side, for a later part of the puzzle. Each piece of your puzzle has a significance, even if the significance does not seem relevant at the time. The piece will later show you a significant answer to your puzzle, if you look for it. Each piece matters, and cannot be manufactured or replaced by the wrong piece. If a wrong piece is chosen to your puzzle, then other areas of your life will also begin to not work out. When choosing the right piece of your puzzle, another piece or pieces will show up and snap together shortly after.
A puzzle is the creation of many pieces, and placing the pieces together takes time to master. Sometimes, we get upset when the pieces aren't fitting. When a piece is not fitting we have to back track which wrong piece we snapped in and remove it, then move forward to find the right one. As we move forward, we must hold perseverance through rejection and release fear of failure, to reach the end of the puzzle picture. Building the puzzle of ourselves is difficult and we will always create some failures along the way. But, as we work towards the end of puzzle picture of our true selves, we will feel a major sense of reward as our pieces have been strategical placed together to create a perfect masterpiece.
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