As adults we often lose ourselves, as we grow older. We lose ourselves by not healing past pain, by living for others, and by not remembering where we came from. People often like to forget their upbringing because it was not ideal to them. People like to ignore their mistakes, rather than admit to them. Often people forgot traumatic events because they are too painful to deal with. By ignoring all the things that broke you, it will not ever be possible to be your best potential true self. In order to remember who you are and be your best potential self, you have to heal and clear out all of the pain and past mistakes that have made you who you don’t want to be. You have to accept pain and the past you lived rather than run from it, even pain goes as far back as childhood. It is never too late to heal past pain. Pain is still there even when you bury it for years. Until it is truly looked in the face, felt, and then released it will not go way. Pain is always in your subconscious until you work on it, and bring it forward. People look to distractions to get over pain or forget it. We can't change our past, or pain that has happen to us by distracting from it. By using distractions, we instead allow it to grow further inside us. People that have depression often hold on to their past and don't wont to accept that the things that happened in their lives. Depression can be release when pain is accepted rather than held on to and unaccepted as a real event. You can reconnect with you true self and your hopes and dreams when you let of all the things that altered who you wanted to become. Although, it can be painful to look back on a less than ideal childhood, or failed relationships, it is necessary to look at in order to move forward in to the true person you are meant to become. As someone that has been through both traumatic events and less than ideal relationships, I can say that I was unable to find out who I really truly was and what I wanted to become until I let go of the things that I didn’t want to define my life. Once you let go of the things that made you lose you true self, you are able to look at your life as an open book that still needs that pages filled in. The light will be shed on your dreams and the person you want to become will the surface once you remove the darkness from your mind. So stop losing yourself by holding on to mistakes and pain, but instead release the fear and allow yourself to begin again.
Do you get wrapped up in your past regrets and not allow yourself to move forward? Do you stay attached to past pain and not want to let go? Your present life is an open book, if you allow it to be. Pain is meant to be pushed through to show you the strength of your being and allow you to grow from it. The best things in life happen when you overcome failures and mistakes. We are meant to fail at things to show us how to become better. Don't miss the chance to become a better person because you fear change and the uncertainty of it. People spend a lifetime suffering and feeling sorry for themselves because of the situations that they put themselves in, rather than move on. If you find a way to move through your negative beliefs and negative self-talk, you can overcome your pain. Your mindset is what is in control of your life. What you think about yourself and your life will continue to be true until you change it. The process of changing your mindset and letting of pain is a process that takes constant work and can be tough. Facing your fears and pain can be emotional, but it allows you the chance to release those feelings of suffering and regret. If you want happiness, you have to think of what happiness feels like. You present day can only be affected by what you allow in. Your eyes should be open to the present. If your eyes are not open to the present, you will not see all the opportunity for happiness that lies right in front of you. Live each moment of your day as if you choose that moment for yourself. Keep going even if you aren't sure what to do in that moment. The answers will come to you, if you just keep going. Don’t let your past mistakes, guide your life. We are all human, make mistakes and have pain because of them. The people that live the most free and happy learn to not hold on to the pain, it’s not because they never had any pain that they are happy. Have faith in the present moment and it will have faith in you. When you continuously look back to your past, you will continuously block yourself from improving your life. Peace and happiness will come when you live life in making your present day as bright as possible. Let your pain guide you to a place of peace. Release your pain and let your life flow. When mistakes happen, forgive yourself and move on. Let the negative feelings pass through you, and your new found strength will guide you to a brighter day.
What's the difference between living and just existing? Living means that you are in the driver's seat of your life and existing means that you are in the backseat of your life just going along for the ride. So which one are you doing? Living means meaning being present in your life and in your thoughts. Are you in the now, the past or the future? The most fulfilled a person can possibly be, is done by living in today. By living in the today, you are making a conscious effort to make your life better on a regular basis. That means not filling moments by being distracted by internet, phone, and TV. It means living an active life in which you are participating in things that bring you joy rather that fill time and space. Are you struggling just to get through a day? If so, you are filling time with things that aren't important or meaningful to you. Does your work have meaning or is it just a paycheck? Do you love life when you wake up or just want to survive the day ahead? Life is meant to be lived, not coasted by on autopilot. If you are coasting, start making changes to your daily routine. Change your morning routine, and make it one you enjoy rather than rushing through it. Make time for moments of silence to clear your thoughts either through meditation or just sitting quietly for a short period of time. People often spend so much time rushing through their day that they forget to just be still, and take a moment rather than keep going or picking up their phone. Take time to think about what changes you want to make and find solutions rather than distractions. Be present in conquering your fears and you will feel more alive after you do. Where have you always wanted to travel? Make it a point to find a way to get there, even if it means saving money for a year to do so. Do something to help people that need it, rather than ignore that there are people less fortunate than you. Be grateful for what you have now, rather than ignore it. Love more, and give love everywhere you go. Loving more can mean just be more caring and kind to those around you and strangers you see. By being more present in you day to day you will begin to see that life has much more to offer when you drive it rather than sitting in the backseat of it and letting your day go by while you stare out the window.