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In our lives we have a past that inhibits our thoughts, our feelings, and our reactions. If we grew up in a negative environment as a child, whether it be an alcoholic parent, a neglectful parent, or an abusive parent or relative, the things in which we inhabited unconsciously during those early years often stays well into adulthood. Negative and dysfunctional environments can leave us with adult anxiety or depression, as well as negative thought patterns. If we are not careful, we can perpetuate a negative life based off our learned behaviors from a negative childhood environment.
Anxiety and depression are not a death sentence as some believe. The ability to let go of our negative thinking patterns, change our habits, and release the way in which we tie our present thinking to things that have happened to us in our past is how we can reprogram ourselves to be a happy individual. Through the power of neuroplasticity we as humans are able to replace our negative thinking and habitual habits by learning new experiences, and making new thoughts with our brain.
Our thoughts and our past are not a permanent fixture in our lives as some may think. We have the ability to let go of our past no matter how traumatic the thoughts or how severe the anxiety may be. Our minds, which are similar to computers have a software in which we run our thoughts from and it can be switched out with a new software or way of thinking. Through focusing on new habits, new experiences, and new ways of thinking we are able to switch out our old program for a program that is optimal for living a happy life. By letting go our our past, and hitting the delete button we can revive our lives and have a second chance at a peaceful life.
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In working towards our dreams and aspirations, we have to start on them knowing that they are more of a marathon and less of a sprint. The things in which we aspire to have and become not only take time, but take perseverance. Working towards our best selves and our best lives can be taxing on our bodies, ours minds, and our spirit. What we aspire to become must start and end with a vision. A vision in which we must keep hold of, no matter what. Regardless if we are tired, overwhelmed, overworked, or under appreciated we must always remember our vision, and also take time to view our progress in the rear view mirror. Progress often seems like it should be an end goal, when it actually includes tickers on the timeline along the way. So why is it hard for us to acknowledge the tickers on the timeline? It is difficult to focus on the tickers, because we often don't see ourselves changing. But, others may see an entire transformation that is worth a large round of applause.
So how do we hold our vision, while holding space for change and transformation? We do so by creating an ideal daily life that we begin to work towards. We spend each day, each week, each year piecing together this ideal life until we reach that vision. In doing so we must understand that an ideal life that we envision may be much harder to achieve than we imagined. Dreams or visions should be thought of as a plan with many pieces to put together. Piece by piece our vision will become clearer, but that does not mean it becomes easier.
We as humans must understand that anything worth having takes time and patience. Patience means waiting just one more day, one more year, or 3 more years until our vision becomes a reality. That means that there are times of struggle, times of exhaustion, and times in which we wish our live would just become easy already. But until that time comes, we must remember why we started and why this dream is important to us. Keep your eyes on the road ahead, even when the road seems a bit foggy. Dreams are not for the small minded or the weak at heart. Dreams and ideal lives are given to those who believe in a bigger life that they know they deserve. So while you are working towards your passions, your dream business, or your dream family remember where you started and be grateful for where you are now. Continue to hold gratitude each day, and congratulate yourself along the way because when your vision finally does arrive you will understand ever step you had to take in order to reach that final destination.
Connection is the key to conception of self. Through connection to ourselves and others we are able to truly understand our spirit and our interests. Connection is the not only the thing that binds us to ourselves, it binds us to our good vibe tribe or our running buddies. Our running buddies or our good vibe tribe are the people that run alongside us to cheer us on, support us, make us laugh, shine a light on us when we get stuck in a dark place, and most importantly they will bring out some of the best parts of us. The running buddy is someone who will ask if you are ok. Not only will they ask if you are ok, but the will take a chance to lend you a hand to get you back on two feet. The running buddy will not fix your problems, but they will help you to water when you well is dried up at the moment. Your good vibe tribe will not complain or condemn, but instead they will inspire and uplift. A good vibe tribe will love you unconditionally, even when your face won't shine rather than push you down further for their own selfish needs.
A good vibe tribe is the group of people that will be the ones we can feel at home with and be our honest true self with. Our support does always not need to come from our family or a loved one. Sometimes our family will not give off good vibes. Families are often the sources of criticism and lack of support. A runny buddy is someone that supports you, your life, and the things you are passionate about. Find a running buddy as a member of you church, your yoga instructor, a coach, a person you meet at an event of your interest, or through a creative class or group.
Runny buddies are often all around, if you open yourself up to having real honest conversations with people around you. Connection starts with communication and shared interests. Happiness and the ability to grow as our best self begins with connection to our true self. We also need to understand the importance of having a person or a group of people whose spirits align with ours. Our good vibe tribe will consist of those whose spirits align with ours and share at least one interest in which we can relate on. And many times we mistake, co-workers, drinking buddies, and childhood friends as our runny buddy when they are just surface level connections met through a shared environment. We all have our tribe, so don't settle for less. Take the time to find your tribe, and understand that good things come within time but are well worth the wait.