One of the biggest barriers to happiness and success is a lack of support from within the environment that surrounds us. Often times we find ourselves feeling unsupported and unheard. Whether you come from a wealthy lifestyle or a modest lifestyle, the need for support from those around us doesn't seem to disappear . Then, we sometimes see others with wealth and success and think they must have a perfect background or environment to get to where they are. We also tend to generalize that people with not so steller financial status or negative environment can not be successful.
The need for support and positivity is a human need in all of us, and the status of our lives doesn't interfere with this. I often talk with very wealthy and successful people that are lacking support and emotional connection from those around them. And while working in psychiatric hospitals and doing casework in poor homes when I was younger, the issues were often exactly the same as the wealthy people coming to me today. So I have found that my work for the last 15 years in helping others find happiness, has shown that the ability to find happiness and success is not a direct correlation to where we come from or how much support we have. We in fact can tap into our potential regardless of support or resources. We don't need a supportive environment or positive people to help lift us up to live a life of our dreams.
Our true ability to tap into success and happiness comes from being able to find strength and resilience through failures and lack of support. Many times the people with the most success and happiness actually have very little around them to help them to get to where they are today. Success and happiness, instead comes from an inner willpower to live a better life and to have a purpose filled life. Without support and a positive background, happiness is always still an option. Although a lack of support or feeling like others don't care about you, can make life more difficult it doesn't need to stop you from being happy or successful. Many people are held back or depressed in life because they don't have people that believe in them or make them feel genuinely loved. But, true strength and power will come to us in life by learning to love yourself and believe in yourself fully so that you can see that anything is possible if you step in your own power.
Once you learn to lean on yourself and empower yourself fully, your potential is unlimited. You can create a life that you truly love and feel good about if you believe you are worthy of it. Even if others deem you unworthy of happiness or your dreams that doesn't mean you can’t make them happen. Trust that you can make anything happen and lack of support or a toxic environment around doesn't need to stop you from living your best life.
Does life happen out of your comfort zone? Or is it just a catchy saying to get people to try things that they are’t comfortable trying. Life is a great thing and many don’t see it that way. People live in comfort and spend a lot of time feeling unhappy, sad, angry, or unfulfilled. Being happy and fulfilled are what many struggle with but can’t ever find a long term answer for how to achieve.
The answer to happiness and fulfillment in daily life comes from the ability to stop seeing things through our limited perspective of the world. Becoming open to success, deeper meaning, and happiness in our life is where it all begins. The openness in our way of thinking is what most of us lack, unless we have worked to undo our negative programming in our minds and stop seeing life as a thing to complain about but rather a thing to optimize at its’ fullest potential. And we all have potential to live more fully and more happier than ever but most don’t believe it.
So if belief is something that most lack, then how do we tap into the life we truly desire. The life we truly desire is not beyond reach but rather out of view from what we keep seeing in our thoughts. Our comfort zone is more about leaving the comfortableness of our thoughts and limiting beliefs than it is about taking risks.
Our comfort zone is our mindset, our goals, our preconceived notions of what’s expected, our determined social status, and our sense of what’s important to how we live. All of these things are what usually keep us stuck in a box or comfort zone which constricts us and holds us back from reaching our potential. Our potential happiness and success are almost undetected if we can’t see past what society and our beliefs make us think we are suppose to be living our life as.
And so yes life is much more full on the other side of our comfort zone. But, leaving our comfort zone is a process and one that a person must commit to. A person must commit to working through their mental blocks and preconceived notions of what life is suppose to be and become open to all the things that life could be. Our life can be created according to our true desires not just the things we are settling for. But, we must believe that our optimal life is possible, and in belief there must also be action to make those things a realty.
To learn more:
Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone- The Essential Guide to True Happiness book (to be released in late fall)
Confidence is the key to living your best life. Without confidence you can’t get very far on your goals or dream life. The idea of confidence being something you can fake or pretend to be, is something that is harmful. With social media being such a popularity contest, the world is filled with people that are pretending to be confident. But, underneath the surface level persona are people who are uncomfortable with themselves.
Faking confidence is not an option. Confidence is only truly found in empowering yourself and nothing less. Confidence is the act of stepping into your own power regardless of how others feel about you. It’s not about caring what others think and conforming to their ideals or pleasing others so you can be liked, or using material things to build your surface level confidence. True confidence is about owning your spirit and walking in it with all fibers of your being. Confidence is about being in your truth.
Our truth is where our greatness and optimal potential happiness are hidden. Our confident self has nothing to do with degrees, money, popularity, or likability. Being confident is about living life on your own terms and living in a life that you created based on your own needs for happiness. Our greatness or confidence is truly a feeling of inner peace that is found in being our empowered true self.
Confidence is an inner job that can only truly be completed when we learn self acceptance and positivity from within. Confidence is independence of self and high valued self worth. The real truth behind confidence is that it’s a state of being not a feeling. Being confident means being empowered and staying true to your authentic self. It’s a choice that you must make daily not a feeling you must wait for. Confidence is empowerment and owning your greatness from within. But in order to get confident, you have to gain awareness of the ways you disempower yourself. Our environments, limiting beliefs, and connections can take away from us rather than add to us, so begin to understand where you take away your own happiness.
Start moving towards true acceptance and connection to self and don’t ever stop. Do what feels good to you even if no one agrees or understands. Empowered you is a confident you, so choose to step up to yourself and let go of things or people that control your self worth. Your self worth is determined by you, and you need to choose to be the amazing you. Your true essence is amazing and powerful, but it needs be tapped into. Look at all that you have to offer and all the things you dream about doing, and only connect with that. Your greatness is always waiting for you. Just make sure you look inside to always see it.