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Does life happen out of your comfort zone? Or is it just a catchy saying to get people to try things that they are’t comfortable trying. Life is a great thing and many don’t see it that way. People live in comfort and spend a lot of time feeling unhappy, sad, angry, or unfulfilled. Being happy and fulfilled are what many struggle with but can’t ever find a long term answer for how to achieve.
The answer to happiness and fulfillment in daily life comes from the ability to stop seeing things through our limited perspective of the world. Becoming open to success, deeper meaning, and happiness in our life is where it all begins. The openness in our way of thinking is what most of us lack, unless we have worked to undo our negative programming in our minds and stop seeing life as a thing to complain about but rather a thing to optimize at its’ fullest potential. And we all have potential to live more fully and more happier than ever but most don’t believe it.
So if belief is something that most lack, then how do we tap into the life we truly desire. The life we truly desire is not beyond reach but rather out of view from what we keep seeing in our thoughts. Our comfort zone is more about leaving the comfortableness of our thoughts and limiting beliefs than it is about taking risks.
Our comfort zone is our mindset, our goals, our preconceived notions of what’s expected, our determined social status, and our sense of what’s important to how we live. All of these things are what usually keep us stuck in a box or comfort zone which constricts us and holds us back from reaching our potential. Our potential happiness and success are almost undetected if we can’t see past what society and our beliefs make us think we are suppose to be living our life as.
And so yes life is much more full on the other side of our comfort zone. But, leaving our comfort zone is a process and one that a person must commit to. A person must commit to working through their mental blocks and preconceived notions of what life is suppose to be and become open to all the things that life could be. Our life can be created according to our true desires not just the things we are settling for. But, we must believe that our optimal life is possible, and in belief there must also be action to make those things a realty.
To learn more:
Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone- The Essential Guide to True Happiness book (to be released in late fall)
Confidence is the key to living your best life. Without confidence you can’t get very far on your goals or dream life. The idea of confidence being something you can fake or pretend to be, is something that is harmful. With social media being such a popularity contest, the world is filled with people that are pretending to be confident. But, underneath the surface level persona are people who are uncomfortable with themselves.
Faking confidence is not an option. Confidence is only truly found in empowering yourself and nothing less. Confidence is the act of stepping into your own power regardless of how others feel about you. It’s not about caring what others think and conforming to their ideals or pleasing others so you can be liked, or using material things to build your surface level confidence. True confidence is about owning your spirit and walking in it with all fibers of your being. Confidence is about being in your truth.
Our truth is where our greatness and optimal potential happiness are hidden. Our confident self has nothing to do with degrees, money, popularity, or likability. Being confident is about living life on your own terms and living in a life that you created based on your own needs for happiness. Our greatness or confidence is truly a feeling of inner peace that is found in being our empowered true self.
Confidence is an inner job that can only truly be completed when we learn self acceptance and positivity from within. Confidence is independence of self and high valued self worth. The real truth behind confidence is that it’s a state of being not a feeling. Being confident means being empowered and staying true to your authentic self. It’s a choice that you must make daily not a feeling you must wait for. Confidence is empowerment and owning your greatness from within. But in order to get confident, you have to gain awareness of the ways you disempower yourself. Our environments, limiting beliefs, and connections can take away from us rather than add to us, so begin to understand where you take away your own happiness.
Start moving towards true acceptance and connection to self and don’t ever stop. Do what feels good to you even if no one agrees or understands. Empowered you is a confident you, so choose to step up to yourself and let go of things or people that control your self worth. Your self worth is determined by you, and you need to choose to be the amazing you. Your true essence is amazing and powerful, but it needs be tapped into. Look at all that you have to offer and all the things you dream about doing, and only connect with that. Your greatness is always waiting for you. Just make sure you look inside to always see it.
Your story is something amazing if you let it be. I went from an unhappy, superficial, disconnected life to something I could only dream of. I made the choice to say enough with the life that had feelings of emptiness and yes to a life that feels peaceful. If you can achieve a peaceful and happy story for yourself than that’s optimal. We can’t have a perfect life like many wish to achieve. But, we can have peaceful and positive.
Life will always throw us wrenches when everything is going great, but that is part of living. Life is meant to ebb and flow through ups and downs. Having the best life possible means confidently believing that you can have happiness in all areas. Belief that if you work for a great life then freedom to have the things you want will come to you. Patience and belief are key pieces in achieving your best story. Crafting your story takes time, but first you have some learning to do about your true self and what your really capable of doing. Trial and error will help lead you to a life that matters, but you must try some things before you can truly align with what matters and what feels good.
Learn about what you need in a living situation, a love relationship, and a professional life. Choose things based upon your deeper desires and long term outcomes. Temporary feelings of loneliness, lack, and uncertainty will having you choosing things that aren’t for you. Learn to surpass those negative feelings when they arise, because fulfillment takes time and doubt will tell you it’s not going to happen.
Wait for the things that are meant for you, and keep working to stay positive by crafting a balanced and complete life. Create goals to craft a more optimal story and begin filling in the gaps. The ideal life will not happen in a year, but you will grow each step of the way as you try to achieve transformation. The important part is that you work to change your life to become happier.
Meaning needs to be built into your day inevery way possible. Connect with meaningful people, have meaningful work to do, and have meaningful fun experiences. Don’t just roll home from work and cook frozen food that tastes like crap. Eat food the fuel your energy and makes you feel good. Endulge in a good glass of wine on a Sunday while having brunch with friends. But don’t over endulge. Enjoy and relax through life while also taking moments to work to achieve happiness. And most importantly have goals for each year, and work towards them.
Take three major steps each year to achieve pieces of your story that need improving. Wake up with motivation to make your story better each day and know that you deserve more than what your currently doing for yourself. It’s amazing what changes you can make in a year or two years. In two years, I was able to flip my entire life to outstanding levels of fulfillment and pure bliss. I blossomed into someone that I wish I always had been and so can you.
Book release in late fall:
Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: True Essential Guide to Happiness