Why is everyone so terrified of change? Change is uncomfortable and scary. What makes change uncomfortable? Change is uncomfortable because we can't predict the outcome of it. Change is deemed unsafe because what we have in our current life is safe. Our safety lies within our comfort zone. Our comfort zone can consist of things that are both negative and positive, and also safe because it is what we are used to and can predict daily. Living life without making changes is living life being afraid to evolve. Everything in life is meant to change and evolve. Changes will happen to you, regardless if you want them to or not. SO you can either make changes or they will make you. Eventually all things that are meant to change will come to an end. You can control your journey in life by making changes when parts of your life are no longer working. Or you can do the easy thing and you can continue to struggle with the parts of life that are no longer working. So why struggle when you can choose to change instead? Some people think that if they give up their struggle then they are being weak or it means that they are a failure. In reality we are already a failure, if we continue to struggle. I use to think that admitting I needed to make changes by leaving a relationship; a job or a city I was unhappy with was surrendering to failure. Surrendering to change is actually a success, because you are making the choice to step away from unhappiness. Although, it can invoke fear because you are walking away from things you know, you are putting faith in the fact that things will eventually be better. Fear is the cause of why people don’t change. Fear of failure and fear of the unknown are the most common fears. Fear is what blocks us from making positive changes but also seeing the options that making changes can bring. So what if you make changes and they become mistakes? Well, mistakes are still allowing you one step closer to the missing pieces of to finding your potential happiness and a fulfilling life.
So why not control your journey rather than sit back in unhappiness, watching and waiting for things happen. Take the steps in making positive changes one step at a time, and not in huge steps. When you take small steps, the changes are more likely to be successful. If you embrace change one step are a time, you will not feel as overwhelmed. Changes can be overwhelming when you don't prepare for them, or the possible setbacks that can occur. So how do you handle setbacks? You understand why it occurred, make adjustments and move on using the lesson you learned from it. Changes occur best when you make them confidently and gracefully. When you embrace changes, you must embrace the new in your life. Embracing the new things in life will bring you happiness if you allow them to. Let go of fear of change and the ideas that hold you back from choosing to work towards what you want in life. Positive changes will happen if you have a positive mindset, confidence, strength and the ability to stick to your path of change until you reach you desired outcome of optimal happiness. Be grateful for the things you have been given in your life and life will be gracious to you when you reach for changes to better yourself.