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Bad habits are the comfort blankets that keep us safe, and the things that keep holding us back. Sometimes we think we are so far removed from our bad habits, but when we get stressed or feel lost we then choose to go right back to them. So why do we go back to bad habits? We go back to bad habits, because making new ones can be frustrating and scary. Bad habits keep us comfortable and we have something to lean on. Bad habits can consist of things such as drinking, overeating, or going back to a bad relationships. These are all things we know that are not good for us, but we continue to do because they make us feel better and not so alone. But, if we know these habits are bad, why can’t we stop?
Bad habits are self-imposed cages that we put upon ourselves. The cages that we put up ourselves that keep us from doing more, but make us feel alright. These bad habit could be brought upon by the social pressure to be a certain way. For example, it's not ok to be single, so I would rather stay in a relationship that’s bad than be alone. Bad habits can be used to mask our feelings or stop us from feeling anything. Drinking and smoking are often used to mask anxiety and depression. Bad habits are all about living in the moment and not thinking about the future. Bad habits are about self-gratification, with no thoughts of how they ultimately will lead to a much worse place than we are currently in. A large reason, why people don't quit their bad habits is because they see no immediate consequence to their bad behavior. People also often make the same mistakes repeatedly because they have already determined that this is how life is supposed to be. For example, someone that continuously dates unavailable or abusive people will do so because they believe that is what is meant for them. Maybe, their childhood growing up showed them that this is the way life is supposed to be. People also often take behaviors learned from their parents and take on the same bad habits they witnessed. For example, someone that had a parent that was an alcoholic often becomes an alcohol because of the learned behavior and the notion that this is what they are supposed to become.
These beliefs of what we are supposed to become, can be unlearned. The habits that we form to make us feel safe can also be unlearned. Bad habits are nothing more than crutches that block us from being better people. Let go of your bad habit and instead replace it with a healthy belief that you can think and feel exactly how you want and you don’t need anything to comfort you into feeling better. Instead just live a better life. Make changes to your limiting beliefs, find ways to fight the depression and anxiety, and make time to love yourself so you don’t feel alone if you are single. Or rather than overeat, find something that helps you reduce stress rather than mask it, instead try going to yoga or for a walk. All bad habits can be unlearned, and deleted with the help of a new thinking process and the determination to be better than you were yesterday. Delete a bad habit and replace it with a positive one instead. All bad habits have a purpose as to why you do them, find the actual issue behind your bad habits and deal with it head on. Move forward with the ideal that you don’t need anything as a crutch to make you feel good because if you are happy and fulfilled, those bad habits will no longer serve a purpose. So, kick your bad habits to the side, face your issues, and find out what will actually make you happy rather than grab for things that only provide instant gratification.