Why do so many of us hold on to past pain or anger? Why do we allow negative events from our past dictate the happiness we should have presently...? We as human beings tend to hold on to our pain and also build up walls based around that pain. Pain is felt for several reasons such as abandonment, betrayal, abuse, or feeling unloved. Those feelings come out when we attach a feeling to a negative event that has happened to us. Although the event has happened to us in the past, we are still going through feelings that thoughts of the negative event makes us feel. Most people don’t understand that you can control how you feel in any given moment of your day. If your mind wants to rehash a past painful event, you can control you your mind by not giving attention to that event, and you mind will then move on. When we give attention to a painful memory or thought, that thought grows and grows. If you look at your thoughts like small chemical reactions, you will understand that whatever thought you react to will then encourage a link of several other thoughts that relate to the first one. So if you continually entertain negative situations from your past, you are allowing those situations to have control over your mindset. Your mindset is something that can be controlled when you are aware and conscious of your thoughts on a regular basis. If you think positive thoughts, then other positive thoughts will continue to grow in your mind. Even if you don't believe those thoughts at first, you can practice releasing the negative thoughts, and replacing them with positive affirmations.
Once you regularly become aware of your thoughts, you can replace the negative ones more quickly. A painful event that angers us, can only affect our current happiness if we attach the feeling of anger to that event. So how do we release the feeling of anger to an event? We work by forgiving the person, place or thing that caused the pain even if we don’t believe it is justified. The mind holds on to anger often because it just wants to find a way to justify what happened. We cannot relive the past, the only moment we can live in is the present one, and so why let the past control us? We control every moment we live by deciding upon peace at that moment or giving in to something negative. Peace means feeling and thinking of the most peaceful reaction at that point in time. Peace means letting go of anger, having no shame, or blame towards others but instead accepting the current moment as a moment that can be joyful. Each moment can be peaceful and joyful if we allow ourselves to connect with our inner peace and self-love. Release anger, so you can love yourself. When you hold on to anger, you are giving your happiness to that negative moment and disempowering yourself. So why not take back you power, and release the anger. Take control of your present by not living in the past. The only moment we have is now, so why not make now the best moment it can possibly be. Allow now to be filled with peace, love, and nothing else.