Within our life span, we are meant to have several deaths and rebirths within us. When we are not simply learning the lessons in life we are meant to learn or when we hit crossroads in our lives, often times the life in which we know will begin to crumble around us. We will have times of struggle and loss at these crossroad points. We may then begin to lose things that we base our lives around such as jobs, partners, or homes. We can also fail at things that are very important to us but no longer serve us in our lives. When we have struggles like this, it is what is done to make you who you are meant to be. Heartache, loss, trauma and pain can take us to some dark paces but can also push us through the darkness into a very bright light. Allow your pain to bring you to a place of beauty and brilliance. Let your heartache and pain drive you to a destination of strength, peace, and happiness. Use the pain inside you, and let it take you to all the places you always wanted to go and to do all things you always wanted to do. Don't allow pain or heart ache to break you but instead let it wash away all the things that you don't like about yourself. Allow the pain you hold inside break you apart into a million pieces and then let it bring out the best parts of your heart and soul. Let yourself die along with the painful experiences in your life, and start fresh as a better version of the person you have been. Allow pain to bring you to a resurrection of the new you. Resurrect from your pain into the person that you have been waiting to be.
Without pain and struggle, we would still be holding on to the things that we are comfortable doing, rather than releasing those parts of us that need to die. Pain and struggle should be looked at as a blessing brought to us so that we can change and become better. Although pain and loss can be tough, it can be positive because it forces us to be vulnerable within ourselves and what our life truly is. We have to close doors and open new ones, to become better. We often are so comfortable where we are that doors that needed to be slammed shut long ago stay open because we don't want to leave. With failure, loss, or pain that is brought to us, we are forced to closed doors that we may not have closed. We then have to let that part of us die, or we can choose to wallow in that pain. Rather than stagger or be depressed from loss, instead be open to new opportunities and new versions of what life can be. So, the next time you are faced with pain, loss, or failure try to use that situation to be honest, look within yourself and think about why life has brought you to that point. And instead of staying in the darkness of loss and pain, go through it. Begin to move forward into the light of new possibilities and rebirthing of you rather than standing back. Each loss or failure we endure can only bring us one step closer to which we were always meant to be.
Are you letting your inner critic steal your thunder? Is that negative critic always ruining your motivation to dream and make things happen? Our inner critic is our conscious mind that tells us that we are no good, don't deserve what we want, or can't accomplish what our heart is telling us we can. So often we let our inner critic stop us from accomplishing the things our heart has always hoped and dreamed for. So how do we get our inner critic to stop stealing our thunder? We begin by understanding that what our inner critic is saying is not always true. We only have to believe our inner critic if we want to. Our inner critic is based upon limited beliefs that were built up from our past traumas, environments and people we have surrounded ourselves with. Most times the thoughts coming from inside out mind are really just untrue beliefs that were formed from outside factors that have affected our thinking. We have the ability to quiet our inner critic by telling it we will not listen when it degrades us or talks to us negatively. We will only engage in our inner critic when it encourages us. So how do we get our inner critic to encourage us? We start having positive self-talk within our minds. Set positive intentions, and say them to yourself. We tell ourselves all the reason why we should follow our heart, and ignore all the reason why we shouldn't. The inner critic will not steal your thunder any longer, as long as you stick up to it and detach from it. Many people let years pass by and allow their inner critic talk them out of following their dream career or trying new things that could be life changing. Don't let your inner critic talk you out of being the confident happy person you have the ability to be. You can be whatever you heart tells you it can be. But, you have to tell your inner critic to stop making decisions for you, follow your heart instead and continue to make sure that critic disappears by constantly detaching from it.
So what is a fulfilling life? Is a fulfilling life a great career, a beautiful home, and a large sum of money in the bank? Or is a fulfilling life, living each day in happiness and loving your life from the time you wake up in the morning until the time you go to bed at night. The idea of a fulfilling life is often confused with having a material filled life of luxuries and amenities. Fulfillment from material things will never bring a lasting fulfillment. Happiness from money, corporate career success or materials will always be short lived and you will always be reaching for the next thing. The idea of having a fulfilling life should be looked at as being happy from the things that are within you and the happiness that you bring to the environment around you. Fulfillment is something that can only be felt from within and not from outside influences. Fulfillment comes from a sense of gratitude and appreciation for the things that you fill your day with. The things that you fill your day with should be meaningful to you and should provide meaning to others lives around you. So how do I fill my day with meaningful things? First, began with connecting to things that bring your heart bliss and an overall sense of happiness. For example, simple bliss for me is listening to good music and a good cup of coffee each morning. Other things that bring me bliss are sitting in the sun, playing with my niece, taking a walk through a park, or reading a good book. Find the simplistic things that make you happy, and then look to find the larger things to bring more meaning to your life. What gift or service do you have to bring to others? What problem can you solve for others? We all have something that we are gifted at, and can provide an answer to someone's problem. What is that for you? Once you find your purpose and the small things that bring your heart bliss each day, your life will become fulfilled. Happiness will come easily and your heart will feel at peace. True fulfillment cannot come from a promotion at work, a new car, or large amount of followers on social media, but instead the feeling of meaning that your day has and what your heart feels each day when you go to sleep.