Being present is key in finding both inner happiness and having peace. Most of us are too busy to be present. We are too busy worrying about our family, our job, our future, and also all the people around us. But,very rarely are we actually present to see that all the peace and happiness is already sitting right inside of us. Happiness can be tapped into when we are both fully present and focused on having optimal experiences throughout the day. When we are aware of each moment, conversations can be more meaningful, meals are relaxing, and creative outlets can be expressed. Time being spent freely and in the present moment allows for gratitude, a clear mindset, and an appreciation for the small things around you.
To begin to be present, we must first make the choice to have allotted time to focus on just one task at a time. We must make the choice to do one thing and only one thing for that time. That means if we are having dinner with our family, we engage in conversation without our phone on the table or a tv on, but instead we are present and aware for 30 minutes. During our time at work, we spend 20 minutes reading emails and responding to them without other tabs being read on our computer. When we workout at the gym, focus only on how you body feels and have a clear mind while doing so. When we are present, we are not thinking about our problems, our worries, our fears, but instead we set aside time to come up with solutions to our problems. Set aside time for problem solving and brainstorming(30 mins a week minimum). If a problem has no solution at the moment, we release it and move on until a solution arrives. Worries are worthless. Solutions make life more simple. Presence allow each moment to be used with a purpose,not wasted on endless thinking.
Presence brings both mental clarity and peace of mind. Being present means we are always looking to focus on the positive and find solution to the negative. Rather than be reactive, we are proactive. Awareness and presence allows us to hear our feelings and manage them appropriately. When we allow time for thinking, we have time to sort through what is bothering us and release it. Meditation can start the beginning process of being present in the moment. Through a mindfulness meditation we can hear our thoughts, and begin to bring awareness in our mind and body. Presence will allow us to slow down, and listen. Finding daily awareness lets us listen better to what people are saying you, listen to our gut, and listen when we feel happy doing something. Presence allows us to relax in the moment without racing to the next. Through presence and mindfulness, a person can release stress, anxiety, and find deeper happiness .
To begin to find presence, try a mindfulness meditation:
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Your vision is the beginning of your journey in working towards the life that you want and the happiness that you will achieve. A vision is ideal in creating a long term lasting change in your life. Goals and visions may sound similar, but their is a large difference. Goal setting is useful for a short term period such as a day or week, then often used for bench-marking. For the use of a vision, the time frame must be within the long term range of 1 year, 5 years, or 10 years time frame. When writing a vision you must think of how your ideal life or business is going to feel, look, and sound. A vision is both meaningful and something you desire with conviction. To start, write a vision as a desired life outcome and all the items you want it to include. Then, begin to think big picture and ideally where do you want to be. Be realistic, but feel inspired about the possibilities in your life. Think about the possibility of the outcome not the probability. Writing a vision can take both time and effort to reach a satisfying description. Take a moment to visualize your life for you both personally and professionally(think through these for a few days). After working on your vision, read it to yourself and see if it feels inspiring (keep tweaking it until it feels just right).
Once you have your visualization, use it as your backbone to new positive thoughts, and delete all thoughts that do not correlate with this desired life. Obsess about your visualization, and never let it go. Allow only thoughts and actions that work towards your visualization appear in your day to day life. At times, a vision towards a new life or career may seem overwhelming. But, if you work each day to put one action or step towards this goal, each week you will become closer and closer to this vision. No vision is impossible, as long as you take regular disciplined steps towards the things you truly want and desire they will eventually appear. Most times, it is best that we keep our vision to ourselves to protect it from being ridiculed or told it may not work. Allow your vision to be your only option, and keep yourself moving towards it at all times (even in times of setback, or rejection). We all must start somewhere and no step is to small. All you have to do is write your vision, and take a step one by one.
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As an adult, I thought I would have it all figured out in my 30's, but I then came to realize that I did not know that much about myself. I spent most of my 20's trying to craft a career and an identity that I felt ok with. I had nice clothes, cool friends, and felt successful at my job. I had a few college degrees, and strong work experience that allowed me to have the job of my choice. I felt like I was in great shape, and ate healthy too. Everything from the outside, seemed to be perfect. People would perceive me as being a go-getter, smart, funny, and a hard worker. Often times, I was a complete perfectionist at everything I did. But, from the inside I felt nothing. I felt no fulfillment and no excitement for life. On the outside I was thriving, but on the inside I felt like I was failing. I felt lost. I thought I had done all the right things to be my best self, but I was dead wrong. My mind was telling my that there was much more to life than what I was doing. I felt like I had no purpose besides making money and looking good. I had great vacations, nice clothes, and whatever I wanted.. but I felt tired and extremely bored. It was exhausting trying to be perfect and tiring trying to keep up with my identity. I knew that I had to make a change, but was not sure what that meant.
So, I began searching. I wanted to know what was I really suppose to be doing. What can bring me more satisfaction in life and make me feel alive? I started to find myself by reading books to learn about myself and my purpose, begin a workshop on finding my passion, started observing people who were living out their passions, made a list of the thing in life I loved and hated, and began to piece all that information together. As I began to piece that information together, I found my answer. I realized that I had ignored not only myself, but my natural abilities. I had developed both a career and life that was not truly me. The things I loved and wanted to explore were not occurring in my life at all. I was disconnected from myself, and in turn could not find my purpose. In finding myself through self discovery and research, I found my purpose. I was able to understand what I love and what my life means. The experiences we have in life become our purpose. Our purpose comes in finding out what our life truly means to us and how we can share the lessons we have learned with others. Our biggest struggles, failures and things we have overcame are what make us and what will bind us to other people. We as people must first understand who we are, to understand what our purpose is. So ask yourself who am I? Who am a without my identity (mom, husband, doctor, teacher, lawyer)? We are not our identity, but instead we are traits of a person(our essence) with several life experiences as well. So start by looking for yourself (read, take classes, make new connections, and try new things). Look for yourself, and find the things that make you feel alive. And
once you find what makes you feel alive, the reason for why you are here will shortly follow. All you have to do is start, and allow you heart filled happiness show you the way.
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