The way in which you look at the world, usually determines how you live your life. As someone who has be through some really low points in my life, and then turned them in to some extremely positive moments I can attest to this. No matter what, we will all have low points in our lives such as losing a loved one or going through a failed relationship that meant the world to you. These moments when our world comes crashing on top of us, it allows us to do one of two things. You can either use the pain from failure or loss as motivation, or let that life changing moment ruin you. I used the loss of loved one as an event that would be my motivation for finally living the life I wanted to live and not letting any moments to make my dreams come true pass me by. If you look at loss as a way to rebuild and go after what you always wanted, you will always end up in a better place than where you started. The next time something bad happens to you, stop, breathe, and think about what this moment could do for you and not what could have been. Let the negative event be the game changer in your life and not the game over.
Life is not a battle, although some people may think that it is. Life is a gift that is given to us, not a struggle that we are constantly fighting. I know that in my past, I looked at life as a battle. Within that perspective, it usually was a battle I could not seem to ever win. I found myself unhappy and lost. When you view life as a battle, you look at things as a win or lose situation. When you are winning, life is peaceful and when you are losing, life is not. Being accepted is winning and being rejected is losing. Feeling in control is winning the battle and being confused or scattered is losing. All of the things I just mentioned are battle driven perceptions. These perceptions are what keep people feeling safe and controlled, but also stuck in unhappiness. The perceptions are driven less by happiness, and mostly by fear. The fear driven ideals of living life as a battle is what keeps familiar habits and negative reactions in place even when they should go. Once you start to life live as a gift and a blessing, you can cut the negative habits and struggle beliefs. You will then be able to move towards what you deserve, rather fighting a war that does not really exist. Life will become peaceful once you seek to find a constant peace and surrender to the battle. Happiness is right in front of you, and you don't have to win a war to get to it.
Whether we like to admit it or not, we all do things to feel validated. You might post that great new pic online everyday to get likes and comments because without them you feel worthless. You might always have to tell everyone about your great new car, boat, exotic vacation, new fancy restaurant you were at or whatever it is at the moment that you feel the need to share, to make yourself feel good. Regardless of what it is that you may have to do to feel validated by the people around, you will continue to do it without realizing why you are doing it. Validation is the need to feel accepted by those around you. Most often we seek validation from others when really we are seeking validation internally. We are constantly asking the question, "Am I good enough?". Rather than seek validation within others, start searching within yourself to find what it is that will make you feel enough. Feeling enough can only happen when you let go of external validation, release superficial needs and realizing that you already had enough all along. Stay humble and just accept your true self, by doing so you will feel all the validation you need.