We all have a played a part. The part of being ourself. We pretended to be someone other than who we actually are. We put on a show to be liked or accepted. Some of us pretend to be happy when we aren’t. The pretending is the problem. We put on an act and say this is who we are and what makes us happy, when it couldn’t be further from the truth. The painful thing is, so many people are doing this while feeling like they are dying on the inside.
Happiness and depression comes from the same place: it comes from your connection to self. The closer you are to being yourself and connected with your true self, the more happiness you will be filled with. The further your are from what you actually want for your life or who you really are, the less happy you will be. Happiness comes from the connection you have from within yourself.
Many people are conforming to be someone or something they are not, which in turn means they are choosing to disconnect from self. I use to be one of these people. This brings unhappiness and anxiety. Being who you really are is so very important, but we aren’t ever really taught how to do that. We are taught to how to chase money, colleges, jobs, things. But we are never shown how to find out who we really are and what we really want out of life.
To find a really happy life, you have to truly discover who you are and what matters to you. Disconnect from what is expected of you or what society wants your life to look like. Think about the actual type of life that you really want. What would truly make you feel alive?
Release the need to conform to make others happy or to feel accepted. Acceptance does not equal happiness. Belonging is a human need, but you shouldn’t have to conform or fit a certain part for people to accept you. When you start being your actual self and doing the things you want, true happiness and real genuine connections will come from that.
Start to look at how you are playing a part or parts in your life? What things are you pretending make you happy? How can your become more connected to who you really are?
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“Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone” on Amazon