Much of the present world is based upon instant gratification and impulsive decisions. We want all things right now and not a minute later. A lot of our decision making is based off of the needs in our immediate future rather than a few years out. Often the needs that are being obsessed over are materialistic in nature. The needs of our society have turned from the American dream to the American obsession. People are obsessed with acquiring more things, more prestige, more followers, more money, more success, etc. Some would call this drive, while others would call this the pleasure principle. So much of people's decisions are currently based on the pleasure principle(short term goals), while mistakenly thinking this is what should be the driving force of their decisions. The pleasure principle is the need to have things that bring instant pleasure without an uncomfortable pause. The uncomfortable pause is the moment in which many of us have experiences that are less than ideal(examples:a crappy car, a small apt, less social life, less than ideal clothing), in order to delay gratification for a much larger cause. The delayed gratification period can also be know as a perseverance or willpower period in which we put all of our hard works towards a much larger cause (the long term goal).
Ways to Delay Gratification to Reach for the Long Term Goals
1)Delay gratification of materialistic goals- take focus on deeper more meaningful goals such as living out your life purpose, finding the one, starting your dream business, or finding a way to serve others using your natural abilities to make a difference.
2)Detach from the outcome-take enjoyment in finding your way, and discovering a new way of being . (Remember what it was like being a child wanting to discover new things) Let go of control of outcome, and just let life flow without knowing all the steps. Take each step as it comes, and keep going at all times regardless of falling down or being rejected.
3)Master the pause when tempted with impulse- when tempted to eat that piece of cake, spend money, or settle for a job that is not ideal, take a moment to pause then refocus your energy. When being tempted, we have the ability to stop and refocus our energy on a better decision. Stop, relax, and reset. What is a better solution than choosing this impulse? Always live to be better each day, and make the best possible decisions. And before we are tempted with an impulse, realize what your impulses are and how they are trigger, so that you may be prepared.
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