So, in case you didn't know it...your comfortable life is killing your joy. We all have ways in which we hold ourselves back from being the amazing version that we are really meant to be, and comfort is a key factor in this. Comfort and living predictably is what stops us from growing as a person and reaching our potential greatness from within. So, if living a life of comfort is making us unhappy...then why are there so many people doing this?
Being comfortable is easy and requires little work. Most people are out living a daily life that is secure, easy, and holds little excitement. Depression is often misdiagnosed in a person(oftentimes it's just a person that is unhappy from staying stagnant in their life, not actually someone who is incurably sad). People that are not living up to their potential in life will always feel like something is off. Stagnancy creates depression and feelings of irritability because the person is not truly aligned with who their true self is from within.
When a person does little to challenge themselves or reach for their dreams, then they rarely feel confident or great about themselves. Confidence comes from pushing your limits and seeing what your capable of achieving. Even my 92 year old grandma could tell you this. She is vibrant and living fully because she keeps learning and trying things(baking something different or trying a different hobby). Stepping out of what we know, into the unknown is what keeps our mind and our spirit alive.
There have been Ted talks on this, many psychological studies on this, along with my own personal and professional study on this that show staying in your comfort zone will keep you trapped in your unhappiness. Our mind is what often tricks us into thinking that security is what's best, when it's actually not. Leaving your comfort behind is essentially learning how to live fully as yourself. Learning to train yourself to be uncomfortable and try things, will lead you to a better way of living.
People don't often know how to leave their fears and doubt behind, to let themselves try for more in life. Fear is the main reason why someone stays stuck in their current life of stagnancy. Whether it be fear of failing, fear of losing people, or fear of uncertainty... there is always a fear response behind why you're not trying for things that spark your curiosity. Security is also a major reason why people don't opt for a more fulfilling life. Although security may feel good sometimes, our spirit is going to crave more. And depression will be present when we are always craving more.
Don't be someone that lies to yourself saying you feel good staying stagnant. Stagnancy and long term lack of growth have never left a smile on a person's face. And if your still alive, then just like my grandma there is always time to get uncomfortable. So take one step into what drives your curiousity, and let any feelings of discomfort or fear be your guide to happiness. Get uncomfortable to start living more fully and freely.
*Upcoming book- Stepping Out of Your Comfort Zone: True Essential Guide to Happiness will release in late fall 2018